A German version of this article is printed in Wissenschaft und Frieden (W&F) in their issue 1/2022: https://wissenschaft-und-frieden.de/artikel/wie-ein-stein-der-wurzeln-schlaegt/ I warmly thanks them for the kind authorization to publish here its english version. See: Faucheux, Amélie (2022): Wie ein Stein, der Wurzeln schlägt. Zwischenmenschliche Beziehungen nach dem Völkermord in Ruanda. W&F 1/2022, S. 28-31.
“I have lost my husband, my children, my livestock. I have no one left except those in front of my house who have killed my daughters”. Can a relationship be rebuilt between an individual and those of the community who did or helped raped and murdered their relatives? Through a situation of unprecedented magnitude in history, most of the former perpetrators of the 1994 Rwandan Tutsi Genocide and their victims have to live together as they did before. But how can a relationship be reconstruct when there is an abyssal level of atrocities in between people? This article reviews three means that fostered a capacity to coexist: the formalization of truth, intimate shared storytelling as well as concrete cooperation.